Real Men Talk: What Should A Man Wear On A First Date?

Let’s get real: how many times has any article from a women’s publication talked about what men should wear on a first date? Or, how many times has a men’s publication covered this topic without actually including the voices of gay men?

Lately, I’ve been inspired to bring this conversation here as I realize that most dating articles are heteronormative by nature. Not only does it alienate LGBTs, I also realize that as a journalist, I aim to prioritize the value of every man’s opinion regardless of sexual orientation.

Further continuing the conversation about date dressing, I’ve decided to moderate my first discussion featuring six smart and sexy men. The participants are: Henry of Street Style Poser (go check out his blog!); Brandon Hudson (vocalist) and Brennan Benko (drums) of L.A.’s hottest band The Heirs;  Marcus (a journalist who pumps out super awesome thinkpieces on Medium); Eric Ford (a content coordinator with an eye for style); Malcolm (an analyst who ain’t your regular corporate bro).

Given the diversity of their lifestyles, backgrounds and occupations, everyone’s responses are unfiltered, insightful and refreshingly witty.

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How To Dress For A Date: An Easy Guide On What To Wear, Where

I am not interested in doing it until I find the right person. You see how I choose my shoes – they only go on my feet! – Cher Horowitz

Clueless might be a 23-year-old movie, but whatever Alicia Silverstone said back then is very true to today. While our parents preferred to meet face to face, we rarely want to say “hi” to our hot neighbor or strike up a conversation with a random stranger at a bar thanks to dating apps like Tinder and Bumble.

As much as it’s easy to cut down on time with awkward face-to-face encounters, I just realize that as millenials, we’re automatically programmed to swipe left and right to find our dream date. Are we becoming choosier than our favorite teen fashion icon?

Sure enough, we definitely are. (Duh! 💁) However, the main problem that’s been plaguing us more than boys (or girls, if you’re on the LGBTQ spectrum) is finding the right type of outfit to wear on a date. Given that we’re more dressed down than our parents (thanks, athleisure and streetwear!), I also realize that our penchant for casual gear is leading us into a sartorial mess that’s been blurring the lines of appropriate dressing. Based on wherever your date will be located, think twice before you pull up in your Lulu Lemons!

Here is my guide on wearing what to where:

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Back to Cool: A Girl’s Day Off

Not in the mood for school? We know how you feel.

As much as we don’t look forward to being back in class, it never hurts to amp up some extra effort when you want to turn the hallway into the runway. Inspired by late ’90s and Y2K era teen movies (e.g. Not Another Teen Movie, Mean Girls and Jawbreaker) and The Simple Life, I felt compelled to launch my debut photoshoot for my lifelong passion project, Soeng Signature.

Featuring a well-curated collection of vintage and reworked vintage apparel (that I personally tweaked!), buckle up to witness this litness:

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Model: Iliona Palomitta (@ilionapalomitta)

Photographer: Jimman (@itsjimman)

Stylist: Michelle Varinata (@lapisandlayers)

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The 5 Instagram Poses To Amplify Your Feed

Mercury retrograde might be a headache, but at least it did one thing right: fix our heads and bodies into the right place. For the past couple of years, we had to deal with wacky unattainable body trends (e.g. thigh gap; ab crack) that can only be achieved via A) surgery, B) starvation and C) using impractical torture devices to get the Kardashian body. Thankfully, we can have painless days, munch on our meals and obviously, use our brains to invent clever new poses that can cut down the amount of time we spend on Photoshopping our bodies!

Rather than trying too hard to make yourself look like you shrank three sizes with blatantly obvious Photoshopping, you can fake a leaner look by going for 5 simple effortless poses:

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How To Wear Purple Lipsticks Without Looking Like A Throwback

Is it actually hard to believe that we’re halfway through the year already? As ultraviolet rays and temperatures turn up the heat to 100, it’s easier said than done to stay at home and skip the makeup.

However, I have to commute to work by (literally) walking in 33 degrees C of heat and humidity. Even though I applied primer, sunscreen and LAYERS of skincare, it still isn’t sweatproof – except for my lipstick.

Whenever I don’t feel like wearing my signature red, I always go for a purple. Although any color within the ultraviolet family doesn’t look so office-appropriate, it’s honestly WAY more universally flattering than a beige-y nude lip, which basically looks good on at least like, pale-skinned people. (The beauty industry terminology for “nude” is basically *so* racist, y’all!)

To all the purple lipstick veterans out there, you’ve been covered. But if you are one of those people who are too scared to try purple lipstick, don’t be too chickened out by a bit of color! Check out my go-to recommendations:

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The 10 No BS Skincare Products That I Actually Use

Skin has always been in.

No matter how many glasses of water we have to drink a day, sipping eight glasses isn’t going to sit there and save your skin from pimples, scars and all kinds of other factors that affect your face.

For the past four years, I’ve struggled with acne when I started university. Honestly, it wasn’t fun. Despite being surrounded by warm weather, organic restaurants and sunshine in L.A., the pluses didn’t save me from dealing with the cons of bumpy breakouts. Not only did I break out with flaming red bumps, I also had cysts alongside a bad habit of picking at my zits. I had to see different skincare docs left and right, but none of them saved my skin until my mom sent me to one who was recommended by her friend.  As much as I wanted to blame my countless hours of studying, what *really* did me in was not using the right skincare products.

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Yeah, it was really this bad.

Listen, finding the right skincare is as challenging as searching for a shoe that truly fits. Or, a new BFF. Unlike a human being, a skincare product will listen to your skin and fix every flaw from the get go. Even if you eat a slice of pizza, your skin will still look good if you use the right product.

I know a handful of you really admire my skin, but the journey to flawless skin took me three years to achieve it. If you want to know the exact products I use, I’m finally ready to spill my secrets!

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10 Sizzling Swimsuits That Will Make You Love Your Big Boobs

Swimwear shopping for big boobs is literally hell on earth. From tops that lack proper support to bottoms that are a size or two too big, finding the right swimsuit always revolves around your cleavage. If you have a a tiny waist, bless your freaking heart. To the busty babes who have boxier waists and skinny limbs, I totally feel your pain as most swimwear styles aren’t targeted towards your body type as you’re mainly limited to wearing two pieces.

Despite the #bigboobsproblems, the majority of swimwear styles actually flatter us. Here are my top 10 picks:

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